Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Do's and Do Not's for shopping

I know a lot of the Moms who are a part of this blog are master bargain shoppers. So this post is for the random person that might come across and read this blog.

I recently shopped at a sale put together by the Columbus Mother of Twins Club, affectionately called the Twin Sale. This sale is twice a year and I have bought the majority of my baby items and my daughters' clothes there, beginning before my oldest was born. While shopping there this weekend I took note of some things. Most of these are specific to the twin sale but you might find some wisdom for other types of shopping. Maybe Black Friday?

1. When shopping, whether bargaining or not, try not to take your kids. Especially if you think that you will be standing in long lines. I waited for 2 hours in the twin sale line. Believe me, I am so glad that I did not have 2 girls clinging to my legs and, oh my gosh, whining. Whining kids will not make you happy nor your kids. Another reason not to take your kids- you spend more when they're around. There are so many great deals at garage sales and such that I would think nothing of buying a little trinket now and then. This is just multiplied by 10 if you have a cute little girl, staring at you with big eyes, and asking if she can buy the princess tea set for only $2.00.

2. If you are shopping at a place where it is going to be crowded and tables are close together, such as flea markets or the twin sale, do not bring your stroller. It is not going to save you time or muscle. It's just going to make everyone around you annoyed. Just bring 3 huge canvas bags. I met a lady in line who made her own oversized bags and they looked just like the ones that cost $40! I'm going to find that pattern and make a few.

3. Check things thoroughly. I did not do this and ended up buying a pair of shoes that were both left feet. Now they only cost $2.00 but still, this could have been avoided. It only takes a few seconds to check that there are no stains, rips, or that there are no essential pieces missing.

4. If you can, shop with a buddy. This was the first sale that I attended without Reed and I will never do that again. The great thing is that he can jump in line while I'm still looking at items and then we're not standing in line forever. It's also so nice to have another voice of reason telling me that I do not need to buy Lara 4 pairs of jean shorts, 2 will suffice. Even though they are a dollar each.

5. Power hours are worth it.

6. When shopping during a very crowded, first come first serve, winner take all, type deal, go in with a game plan. If I have big items I need to buy, I do that first. That's how I got all my car seats, strollers, and our bike trailer, each of which cost $50 or less.

Happy Shopping!

Saturday, April 24, 2010

Book Review : The Baby Whisperer

As a suggestion from Hillary, I just finished reading The Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg. I really think that she has some good tips for moms and sounds like she's been doing this for quite some time.

A few things that I liked:

1. E.A.S.Y. I think that Molly and I fell into this type of routine without even knowing it. But it has reinforced my practice of helping Molly be the best baby she can be! Basically it's a baby routine - E = Eat, A = Activity, S = Sleep, Y = You time.

2. The sleep ritual. I sort of just did what I could ("accidental parenting") to get Molly to sleep. But I think that having a routine and a ritual is more important after reading this book. I also learned that patting and rocking aren't necessarily the best. I've found that just holding Molly still works really well in calming her down before rocking her.

3. It reinforced my knowledge of "baby crying." I think we moms have a tendency to project our feelings onto whatever we think the baby is saying and that's not necessarily the true baby feelings!

4. Communication. I am not just talking TO my baby - but WITH my baby. I've been really starting to have "conversations" with her and I think she's getting the hang of it! We were shopping the other day and she's not really doing much of anything while I look around but all of a sudden she giggled really loudly - I looked at her and started talking and she just kept giggling! So I feel like she's starting to understand that she can talk to me just as much as I can talk to her.

There are many many other tips in this book for helping you help your baby. I suggest reading it. I also picked up "Secrets of The Baby Whisperer" which is basically just a condensed version of the real book.

I recommend reading this book before you have your baby and the again while your baby is within it's first 3 months! By 3 months I think you would get most of the tips down for your little one, but if a review is needed than that's just fine as well!

Monday, April 19, 2010

Baby Temperments

One misconception I had about babies, was that there were only a couple of 'types'. I knew there were really easy babies, and then babies who were really difficult. I wondered, what type of baby will I have?

When it comes down to it, there are more than just easy and hard temperments.

I like Tracy Hogg's thoughts from her book The Baby Whisperer where she claims there are 5 main types of temperments for babies, with the chance that some babies may be a mix of two.

Angel: I think this is the baby type I hoped I would have ;) Angel babies are described by Hogg as 'Good as gold. Didn't even know I had a baby in the house. I could have five children like him. We were really lucky.'

Textbook: This is pretty much Lily as described by Hogg 'She's right on time with everything. She's mellow unless she needs something. A low maintenance child.'

Touchy: 'A real crybaby. The slightest thing sets him off. He's not good with other people. He always ends up in my lap or clinging to my leg.'

Spirited: I think Lily has a hint of this temperment in her as well. Hogg suggests this as a description for spirited babies 'A handful. Always into something. I don't have the energy to keep up with her. She's fearless.'

Grumpy: 'What a sourpuss. He seems to prefer playing on his own. I feel like I am always waiting for his next meltdown. He always has to have his way.'

Now, I think it's important to keep in mind that none of these types are good or bad. Some of these may be easier to parent than others; say an Angel baby versus a touchy baby. However, once we learn how to parent our specific baby's temperment, we can be more successful at giving them what I call a happy baby life.

What type is your baby? Take the quiz here that can also be found in The Baby Whisperer:

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

Basic Review Time

The last time I was certified in CPR was during high school... which was a long time ago :)

So here's some links to a basic review for CPR

Infant CPR

Child (1-8) CPR

Infant Choking help

Child choking

This website also gives you a quiz to help your CPR understanding!

Monday, April 12, 2010

Another Hairbow Giveaway!

The same girl from before is having another give away!

Check out her facebook group for entry details.

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=161538661306

Contributor Valerie bought some bows from her and got them just in time for easter - Check out their cute hair on her blog!

Friday, April 9, 2010

Breast Feeding Problems

While breastfeeding can present many problems for both baby and Mom, one of the more serious complications can be a breast infection which is called mastitis.

Unfortunately, I just had the very unpleasant experience of this illness. It was tough. So let me share a few take-aways that I gained from this whole ordeal.

What is it?
Mastitis is a bacterial infection which inflames the breast tissue. The bacteria usually enters in through a cracked nipple (for me, I had a cyst burst and hence bacteria could easily come in).

What are the signs?
Swollen breast (mine swelled to almost 3 times the normal size)
Red patches on the skin
Breast pain
Burning/pain with milk let down and nursing
Skin hot to the touch
Fatigue
Flu-like symptoms

What can be done?
This is important - you must see your Obgyn asap. My family doctor would not see me beccause it's technically not his area of expertise. Your obgyn will know exactly what to do and will talk you most likely the day you call in. I called after about 12 hours of breast pain and I grew increasingly fatigued. Mastitis onsets rather quickly and can hospitalize you. This is not an exaggeration. You can become extremely dehydrated which leads to a lot of problems for the nursing mother.

The doctor will put you on antibiotics to rid your body on the infection. They may also suggest hot compresses to the area to stimulate milk production and the flow of milk.

What is the aftermath?
Antibiotics will help after about 24-36 hours, so the symptoms will gradually fade. Unfortunately, the milk supply of the infected breast will decrease significantly.

Hang in there, keep nursing on both sides. Your supply should return after the infection resloves itself and the swelling subsides. If you begin debating to end breastfeeding, wait. It will only make you more uncomfortable. Wait until after the infection subsides to make your decision.

And, as always, drink lots of water and rest as much as possible!

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Things I've learned

Being a new mom is quite the adventure. There are so many things to learn. My mom said to me that instinct can only take you so far!

So from my experience here's what I've learned.

1. The rule of 2.
     This meaning - bring 2 of everything. 2 outfits, 2 binkis, 2 blankets, 2 diapers, (more than 2 wipes). Time and time again I've found that it's very useful to be well prepared for all situations. During my mission I carried around a mini swiss army knife. Why would a sister missionary need it? I don't know - but it was definitely used. Even the Elders knew I had it and would ask if they could use it. So - not only do I recommend carrying a mini swiss army knife, but 2 of everything that your baby may or may not need! Also carry a change of clothes - Hillary suggested to keep a change of clothes in your car.

2. Breastfeeding is mind over matter.
   Lots of moms get off to a difficult start with breastfeeding. In all the books I read pre-baby they all said that you have to be determined to make it work. I agree. It's not easy, it's hard if there are bumps in the road to feeding normally. So, if you're breastfeeding and running into issues, stick with it. You'll get there. Seek help if you need it. If you need encouragement, email me - call me - talk to your mom - someone! Don't think you are alone! Also for car trips - bring a pump. I pumped in the car while someone else drove and fed the baby with minimal stops. Unless of course you want the break in driving then taking some time to feed is ok.

3 Make sure that you're doing what's needed while baby's asleep.
  I've found that when baby is asleep I like to rest as well. But - there are dishes to be done, bathrooms to be cleaned, floors that need vacuuming. So keep a list of what needs to be done and make sure that you get enough rest in between. Especially since baby is a lot of work! If your partner is around, make sure that they know what needs to be done as well to help lighten the load.

4. A mildly supportive nighttime nursing bra has made all the difference.
   That's a link to the one I've been using. For some reason this bra has really helped during the night. I don't know why, but I would recommend getting one. I know that Babies - R - Us carries them, but that link takes you to the Amazon website.
 
5. Hydrate - which I think is pretty self explanatory.
  

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Language Development

It's never too early to start with language development. Most babies will learn the cadence of language from their mothers. This started in the womb as the baby listened to Mommy talk.

*Your house is a great jumping off point for language and interactive development. You can take the baby on "tours" of your home. Go from room to room describing what you see, have the baby touch and interact with all different textures, sights, and colors. You can turn on the tap and have the baby feel the running water as you describe what you're doing.

*Every time you pass a mirror, tap on it, and your baby will turn their head toward it. Say "Look at the baby, what a cute baby!" This assists baby in self-awareness.

When you pass a picture, stop and describe it. Point out different things as baby follows your hand.

You can do this outside as well as summer comes, they can start to feel the wind, the sun, the texture of grass, etc...

If you're trying to teach your little one a foreign language, it is never too early to start. Teaching the child to be bilingual may initially seem as if the child is a "late" bloomer, but in all reality, they are just learning to separate the two languages in their mind.

In any case, children learn any language at an astonishing rate. The child's vocabulary often reflects what the child has been exposed to. So make sure to read to your child - I've already started reading to Molly and we're on a journey to incorporate the French language into our world as well. More to come!



*Some tips were taken from a book called "Mommy and Me" by Dr. Cindy Bunin Nurik